Dear Captain Awkward:
I’m worried about my old friend. I just moved to her city, and we’ve been spending time together for the first time since she got married. Captain, I think she’s married to a Darth Vader Boyfriend. She pretends to follow his order not to eat macaroons, but sneaks them behind his back. When I offered to help her with some mending, she pushed me into the kitchen with the help, saying “Torvald can’t stand to see anyone sewing”. And he totally mansplained me the other day about how knitting was an ugly low-class pastime and advised me how to do embroidery instead. She goes along with his whims to a ridiculous extent and she thinks he’s wonderful. Captain, what can I do?
- (pronouns she/her).
Dear Ask a Manager:
I don’t have good references because I made some mistakes in my past. No charges were laid, but I was stuck using some sketchy schemes to make money for a while, until I got this entry-level job at the bank. Now I’m keeping my record clean and looking forward to promotion. When I found out one of my old school friends was hired as the new vice-president, I was sure this would be an advantage for me. So I started dropping in at his office and reminiscing loudly about the things we got up to at school. And now he says I’m being too familiar and he’s given me a written warning and a pink slip! However, I’ve got something on his wife (see above, sketchy schemes), so I was thinking that I should just blackmail them into letting me keep my job and move up at the bank. Nothing can go wrong with this, right?
Dear Miss Manners:
As I am in chronic pain due to congenital syphilis (which my nanny told me was my father’s fault), I would like to die with dignity while I have some agency. I don’t think my friends could handle seeing me in rough shape, so I’d like to tell them to stay away. What’s the approved way of notifying them using visiting cards?
From Dan Savage, Savage Love, confidential to NoNoNora: DTMFA.
2022 update: The Savage Love archives have now moved here and do not appear to have a search function. Dan Savage’s frequent terse advice to people in bad relationships is defined in this Wikipedia entry.
The conflicts and choices portrayed in Henrik Ibsen’s A Doll’s House, first produced in 1879, are disturbingly timely in 2017. Alex Hawkins directed the current Walterdale Theatre Associates production to show the complexity of all the characters and the ways class and gender affect their choices. Nicole English (last seen as Mrs. Lovett in ELOPE’s Sweeney Todd) is troubling and inspiring as Nora, and the rest of the cast is strong as well (Tim Marriott as Torvald, Dave Wolkowski as Krogstad, Marsha Amanova as Christine, dale Wilson as Dr. Rank, and Leslie Caffaro as Anne Marie). The designers worked with the restrained palette of 1879 Norway to create an atmosphere embodying both oppression and beauty, with set by Joan Heys Hawkins, costumes by Geri Dittrich, lighting by Richard Hatfield and Rebecca Cave, sound by Kiidra Duhault, and props by Alayna Hunchak.
A Doll’s House continues at the Walterdale Theatre until Saturday October 21st, 8 pm Tuesday-Saturday and 2 pm Sunday. Same-day tickets are available at the door and advance tickets are through Tix on the Square.